IS YOUR GOAL FROM GOD OR YOU?

In my previous post (October 9--What Will Make You Happy?) I started exploring the theme of GOALS. Highly motivated people often possess very specific goals. Not everyone sets long-term goals but if someone is seriously motivated they move through their day and week with a clear sense of direction and definition [focus]. I appreciate hearing the stories of people who have achieved a major goal, or at least made significant progress towards a milestone in their life. It’s inspiring to think that if they can, maybe I can. I think that’s part of the reason the reality TV shows that focus on weight loss are so popular.

In thinking about GOALS recently, I’ve found myself reflecting on two groups of people: One, those who pursue goals without God; and, two, those who pursue goals with God.

I think it’s important to honestly consider where our goals originate. Do our goals reflect what we want in our lives or what God wants? This is a very basic question, but I believe it’s one we need to frequently think about. Our “wants” and the selfishness that so frequently rears its ugly head in our lives, has to be honestly confronted or we’ll cruise through life making ourselves and our “wants” the center of the universe. 

We can determine whether our goals originated in God’s plan and purposes for our life by looking at several things:

The first question: Does my goal keep me moving closer to Jesus by helping me to daily follow Him and represent Him in the world? On the surface this may seem like a hyper-spiritual or fanatical way to approach life. Someone may argue, “Not everything in life is spiritual. We shouldn’t have to make everything about God.” I think this is a popular argument, though not always verbalized among Christ followers. It’s more of a passive response, or something people think, but don’t necessarily say. Personally, I’ve never seen someone who has left God out of as area of their life who is truly close to the Lord. The important word in that last sentence is “Lord.” When Jesus Christ is “supreme”, which is the definition of “Lord”, He rules over every part of us.

The second question: What is my true motivation for setting my sights on a particular goal? We can be motivated my many different things: Comfort is a huge motivator. Most of us want life to be easier. Money is big. If people think they lack money, they’re often influenced by the lie that if they had more, life would be better. I’ve met many people, you have too, who have plenty of money and they’re miserable. Recognition is a major motivator. Many people are motivated by a desire to be appreciated. Pleasure, from the angle of seeking sensual experiences to the pursuit of happiness, is a dominating motivation in our world today. What’s your true motivation?

In closing out today’s post, I want to offer a short checklist to help in determining whether you’re pursuing goals without God:

• I can share my goal with a friend who is a strong [mature] follower of Christ. (Warning: You can always find someone who calls themselves a Christian, who will encourage you in your goal, no matter how wrong it may be. We need to be able to share our goal with the strongest Christian we know.)
•  I can talk about my goal with others without having to offer an explanation (If not it’s a type of rationalization: “I know it’s not the best thing, but it’s just where I’m at right now.”)
• I have a clear sense of peace from God regarding my goal.
• I am confident my goal is helping me become a better follower of Jesus Christ.

I’m sure there are other things that could be added to this list, but if you can check off all four of the above “I” statements it’s a good sign you’re trusting God to direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6) and give you the goals that will lead to His best.

To be continued…

WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY?

A lot has been written about motivation in life. At the local bookstore you can find books about this theme in multiple sections: business, psychology, self-help, financial, and others. In a culture consumed with winning no one wants to be a loser. In a culture that elevates the rich and famous to excessive levels, there seems to be no slowing in the infatuation with celebrity.

Not everyone possesses a drive to succeed, but most people at least have a modicum of desire to achieve some level of accomplishment in a part of their life.  This drive or desire may be fueled by different motivations: the approval of others; the desire to be rich; the need to be recognized; insecurity; or even the fear of failure.

Once a person has identified what they want to achieve they’re able to create a GOAL. Having a goal can be a tremendously motivating influence in our lives. For the most focused and driven individuals having a goal can become an all-consuming force in their lives. They are willing to do just about anything and to sacrifice whatever they must if it will move them closer to their goal.

If I had a dollar for every person who achieved their goal and then discovered it didn’t fulfill them in the deepest part of their soul, like they imagined it would, I’d be a wealthy man. When your goal is something that’s come from you, how do you know it will truly satisfy your soul? What makes you think you know what will make you happy?

This is the reason why it’s not difficult to find examples of people who spend their life moving from goal to another, their lives a never ending pursuit of their elusive dream. This may manifest in someone bouncing from one relationship to another or frequently changing jobs or, at the very least, experiencing toxic levels of disappointment and dissatisfaction. If this even remotely describes you or someone close to you, stay tuned to my next few blog posts as I explore the theme of pursuing goals.

A couple of questions came to me the other day:

What if life is about the journey and not the destination?

What if life is more about the fight than it is the victory?

Hopefully I’ll answer these questions in my future posts. Until then here’s a double-shot of the eternal Word:

“And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process?”  Mark 8:36 (New Living Translation)

“To act without knowing how you function is not good; and if you rush ahead, you will miss your goal.” Proverbs 19:2 (Complete Jewish Bible)